tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-681962943423935305.post8516277515727042017..comments2023-09-24T01:52:47.615-07:00Comments on Return to Innocence: She Vexes Me GreatlySaigehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09274842769323024702noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-681962943423935305.post-81468815657180206382010-01-04T10:33:49.475-08:002010-01-04T10:33:49.475-08:00What a complete b. I'm sorry you have to deal ...What a complete b. I'm sorry you have to deal with her. I really don't have any good advice to give to you on this.Pottershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03755159393111306177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-681962943423935305.post-28623014908196165242010-01-03T21:04:49.349-08:002010-01-03T21:04:49.349-08:00Thanks for the advice ladies. I'm doing the be...Thanks for the advice ladies. I'm doing the best I can with what I have at the moment. I just wish she could see the reason no one likes her is because she is a shrew to all of us. She can't ever be decent and it is maddening.<br /><br />Honestly, she is the reason I have this blog. I didn't want her knowing about the PPD and sending me nasty emails about that. I also wanted to be able to blog about her to get her crap off my chest without her knowing about it. Cowardly, I know, but again, not a confrontational person.<br /><br />If anyone wants her, please let me know. I'm giving her away for free. I might include a box of chocolates. :DSaigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09274842769323024702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-681962943423935305.post-49946239929187855142010-01-03T20:15:38.664-08:002010-01-03T20:15:38.664-08:00Man, I want to smack this lady! I cannot believe t...Man, I want to smack this lady! I cannot believe that she had the nerve to tell you what to put on your blog! <br /><br />You know...I just don't know what to say or advise. I am in this same predicament with my father and his family. I have gone back and forth between not talking to him for years, and then being close to him. I love him, and it hurts if I am close to him, and when I am not close to him. So, for now I have chosen to be close to him (as much as I can be). It is a decision that i have to re-evauate every now and then. <br /><br />Maybe you can just re-evaluate every now and then. What it sounds like to me, from just this one post, is that you should just let it be. She sounds like a nasty person, and she is not going to change. It is probably best to keep her at a distance. You don't have to write her out completely, because that could cause you guilt and you don't want that. You also should stick up for yourself when necessary, such as with the blog thing, or when she sends you emails about what you are doing wrong regarding fertility. <br /><br />If she does something that you just cannot handle, then you can decide to take a break for a while.<br /><br />The one thing to remember is that you can't change her. I tell myself that about my dad all of the time.<br /><br />My mother-in-law and I went through 2 years where we didn't speak. She is a yucky person as well, along with some crazy added to the mix. It was tough when we didn't speak because I knew it bothered my husband. If I had to do it again, I would, but I hope that I can just continue to brush things aside for the rest of my life.<br /><br />I am sorry that you have to deal with this shit!Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217779025743115019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-681962943423935305.post-82518779514162924392010-01-02T22:21:45.660-08:002010-01-02T22:21:45.660-08:00H, my husband already doesn't talk to her. At ...H, my husband already doesn't talk to her. At all. Ever. That's why she communicates to/through me. It annoys the ever living crap out of me.<br /><br />I wish I could just go back to the good old days where we didn't talk, email, or even communicate. *sigh*Saigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09274842769323024702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-681962943423935305.post-5485733764540718112010-01-02T20:42:23.249-08:002010-01-02T20:42:23.249-08:00Sounds like your MIL has a lot of class! Honestly,...Sounds like your MIL has a lot of class! Honestly, she really sounds like one of those people that are never happy, no matter that you do. <br /><br />Just be who you are and try not to let her get to you. (I know easier said than done). You seem like a wonderful person, who unfortunately, married into a crazy family. <br /><br />May you find joy in this new year by focusing on your husband, beautiful daughter, and yourself as you prepare to add to your family.Life Happenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02302134343874268994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-681962943423935305.post-77448834143155392232010-01-02T15:51:08.704-08:002010-01-02T15:51:08.704-08:00It's also totally ok to say to her that you an...It's also totally ok to say to her that you and hubby dont want gifts from her anymore, that you'd much rather just the baby gets gifts. A lot of people work that way these days anyway. <br /><br />I think that whatever way you decide to go (limited access to grand-baby only or totally cutting her out), it will be your fault since she already dislikes you. You just have to understand that and try to find ways to work around it. <br /><br />It sounds to me that email is a big catalist for your unhappiness. What about blocking her email and she can just ring your hubby to organise seeing baby. You could go old school and post her photos of baby's development instead. Who doesnt like getting snail mail!<br /><br />You dont have to be in contact with her. Hubby can be the contact person. I know it's probably not what he wants either but she is his mum and he cant escape that.<br /><br />*big hug*<br /><br />H.M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com