Sunday, November 28, 2010

Grownup

I just wrote up a whole post about how I haven't been blogging due to lack of time, complete with apology for not being caught up on all of yours. But you know what? I think we're all sick of those posts from me. Let's talk about something fun instead.

I have asked this question to many of my friends lately because I am curious as to their responses. Here is the question:

Is being an adult anything like you thought it would be?

The answer for me is absolutely not.

It is a million times better.

I always thought that when I grew up, and especially when I became a mom, that the fun part of me would die. I would have to be responsible, and being responsible meant that I wouldn't be silly anymore. That I would have to be serious all of the time. I was afraid my sense of humor would be stiffled and I would end up being a disciplinarian like my mother.

It wasn't until I became a mother that this thought really started occurring to me. It was because I was having so much fun with my daughter. I was enjoying buying her toys as much as I would have enjoyed getting them as a kid. Even better, I was loving the fact that I could sit on the floor and play with them with her without it being found "creepy" that I was playing with children's toys.

Before I became a mother (and even after), I lived up my adult life the way I always wanted to when I was a kid. It still tickles me pink that I can buy as much gum and candy as I want. I can go wherever I want whenever I want and buy whatever I want. The child inside me is living through my adult self. That is literally how I feel. I feel like I am getting away with things. And how cool is it when I travel the world? How awesome is it to go away on a trip with my husband? Even better, how awesome is it to be a mom and take my child on trips?!

I feel like the child inside of me is constantly bouncing up and down with glee at the freedom of being an adult. That child was made even happier with the addition of my daughter because now she has a playmate.

Don't get me wrong, I am not one of those parents who is more concerned with being my child's friend than being a parent. There are still rules, and discipline is handed down when necessary. I am still a mom, and I take that role very seriously. It is my responsibility to ensure my children grow up to be decent, caring, compassionate, contributing members of society, and that cannot be done if I am too busy being the friend and not the parent. It's just that I really enjoy being silly with my daughter.

I realized after some pondering that the reason I thought being an adult would mean being stodgy is because that is how I view my mother. So of course I would think that my role model mother is how being an adult and parent would be. Man am I glad it isn't! I enjoy life so much! I ended up being so little like my mother and more like my dad who has always been a kid at heart too.

Even more to my delight, being in the workforce isn't as stodgy as I thought it would be either. I always figured that being a professional in a professional job would be all seriousness, memos, boringness, and business suits. Again, I love that it is completely different. The people I work with are every bit as much kids at heart as I am. We love jokes and pranks and dirty jokes. We enjoy going to lunch together and laughing till our cheeks hurt. Our faces light up when we see candy and we eat it like it's going out of style. We get giddy at the sight of donuts. It is actually fun. Work isn't the seriousness and dullness I thought it would be. It is almost the exact opposite.

I bought a magnet last week that said, "If you didn't know how old you were, how old would you be?" My answer is 22. How old are you?

6 comments:

Sass said...

When I was young, I was convinced being an adult meant I could stay up really really late, eat cookie dough whenever I wanted to and wear my hair down.
Turns out I like early nights, too much cookie dough makes your tummy hurt and I wear my hair up all the time because it gets in the way.

I do have to say, I love being a responsible adult (at times) especially when I have the freedom to chose what I want and where I want my life direction to go.

Have missed you lovely.
xoxo

AnxiousMummyto3 said...

So nice to read a new post from you. Thanks for your comments too!
I would pick a little younger than the age you chose, about 20 maybe? This was the age I attended uni and it was just the most carefree time, but with the fun parts of being an adult. I'd love to go back there! I am a big kid too and love toys. This was a fun post to read!

Jennifer said...

Being an adult is definitely not all I thought it would be. I always thought being an adult meant things were easy and I could do whatever I wanted. Oh the thoughts of a 10 year old. ha! It's not that life is hard, well sometimes it is, but I sure do love this life I have. I'm blessed with a husband who loves me, a family who supports me and friends who bless me every single day.

I certainly don't feel 39 either...more like 29. :)

Life Happens said...

Being an adult certainly has it's freedoms, but being a kid has an innocence about it. Some of us are still trying to figure out what we want to be when we grow up. I always knew in my heart that I wanted nothing more than to be a mother. Little did I know what the journey would entail.

Thank you so much for the package! It was such a delight to get something in the mail. I can't wait to read the books! I am grateful that we 'met' through blogging and we can be there for each other on this journey!

Cherish This Life! said...

LOVE this post, great thoughts to ponder. And I honestly have no idea how old I would say I would be. I have loved my life more and more with each new year so it's hard to pick. Oh adulthood!!! LOL!

Suzanne said...

Being an adult isn't all that I thought it would be. There's a lot of responsibility and lots of difficult decisions to make. There's also a big to-do list! That said, I really enjoy my life and I love being an adult. I am in charge of my life now and working as a children's librarian really keeps the fun child-like aspect of myself alive - I get paid to play with puppets and give storytimes! It's amazing! I feel like I'm somewhere in my mid-20s.